Submissive, Passive, Aggressive
We had Louise’s friend Jen around tonight, and have drunk far too much wine.
Ended up having drunken, rambling conversations about success, and how it’s achieved.
Louise mentioned some teaching that forbids the use of the word sorry. Obviously, the thrust of this was about presenting a confident, un-repentant, self to the world, and that hesitance made your peers lose their confidence in your abilities/leadership…Whatever.
Reluctantly, I had to acknowledge that being good at something isn’t anything like sufficient. It’s often better (or at least more successful) to be bad, but overrun with self-confidence. I’d imagine that this is a theme that will re-occur on this blog (if it continues!) – it’s hardly original. Nonetheless, it’s an issue that troubles me. Repeatedly.
I’m the most paranoid person I know, yet I genuinely believe I have some worth. My frustration at less-able persons achieving success forces me to confront some rather poignant issues. Do I begrudge them their success because I feel I deserve it more? Or do I begrudge it them because it’s undeserved?
And all of this talk of refusing to apologise. It’s all good and well (or is it?) when discussed among management consultants. But, what if everyone assumed this stance? Clearly, society depends upon the submissive, passive and dominant components. If the mix varied too much, things would fall apart.
Clearly, this could go on and on.
More power to the humble – kind of.
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